During the last couple of weeks, there have been events going on that I have been thinking or maybe second guessing about marriage. I am happy with my marriage and I was a nervous wreck but I decide it is the best thing in the world since I am happy with her. But as time goes on, some people that I met as married come up divorced in the end. That is one thing that really scared me when I was a kid. A divorce. My parents have been married for over 40 years and I still couldn't figure out why they have worked out well as they did. Now when I got married, I am facing with the same things that makes a marriage work. The question is: How does it work?
No one really knows.
I had a question from one of my friends asked me if marriage is good as it ever is, or does it make you feel complete. That could be a myth. At a time when at least 50% of all marriages ended in divorce, those ideas may not real from at a time when I was growing up. My uncle was married for 18 years before they ended up divorcing. Also part of my dad's family which I like, ended up divorcing. Why? No one knows. I am my own person. My wife is her own person too. At times, we have disagreements. Frustration mostly but when all those subsides, we still keep communicating. We are both different people at times but we share the same goal of what we want to do in our future. I never knew any of this before I got married. It is a big learning experience. I fell that communication and trust is the most important thing in a marriage. The ceremony can be the most surreal of anybody life and it could be the best time of your life, but when it is all over, bam! You have to live and deal with each other.
Has marriage changed me? Yes. It has changed me as a person. I still be my own person but now I have other commitments. I don't bowl at least 3 leagues a week anymore. Plus I am inspired to do new things and hobbies that I never worth pursuing. Sometimes a marriage can do that. I will still continue to work on it. It is a must. Sometimes a lot of people don't go with that route. Just giving it up or blame their spouse for the problems which I don't want to do. I never thought it will be a lot to think about but I am in it for the long run.
Saturday, January 16, 2010
Saturday, January 9, 2010
The End Of An Era.
On December 31, 2009, my mom retired. After 30 years at Mary Kay Cosmetics it was an end of a era. About 5 people left that day and being replaced with young workers. My mom and the other people received a package to leave. She thought it would never come for this to end. She is the kind of person that loves to help people and able to take a extra mile just to make a customer happy. When they offered her the deal, she took it and it was something that she couldn't refuse. On that day, I came in from her last hour of work and my wife came with me. Walking into the place for the last time was a time for me of looking back of a company that I grew up with. Funny isn't it?
I still remember going in that place and seeing all the women that worked there though the years. Most of the people have been there have worked there for 30 years and they even remember me though all the time. From being in that kind of environment, it really was a big influence for me. Mary Kay's motto was to "enrich women lives." She famously said that "god comes first, family second and career third" was the basis of her company. Even though I was a small boy and growing up through the years, I think I applied that principal when it comes to women. I love women. I think women are the most precious people. I don't know why but there is something about them that makes them unique more than anything else. That is one thing that really had a effect on me. My mom actually met Mary Kay Ash herself in Dallas in the late 90's and she said it was the best time of her life. Just actually meeting the founder of the company that brought my mom happiness.
As time time wounded down and tears flew from her co-workers, she handed in her badge and walked out from her work for the last time. What have I learned about this? Be proud of your work. Just being yourself and do whatever you enjoy to do. My mom really loved her work and she was really dedicated to it. Even when it had it's negatives, she looked more at the positives from her work. As much I am sad that it is the last time that I will be at the site, it was something that I will remember for the rest of my life. I will always be a Mary Kay kid.
I still remember going in that place and seeing all the women that worked there though the years. Most of the people have been there have worked there for 30 years and they even remember me though all the time. From being in that kind of environment, it really was a big influence for me. Mary Kay's motto was to "enrich women lives." She famously said that "god comes first, family second and career third" was the basis of her company. Even though I was a small boy and growing up through the years, I think I applied that principal when it comes to women. I love women. I think women are the most precious people. I don't know why but there is something about them that makes them unique more than anything else. That is one thing that really had a effect on me. My mom actually met Mary Kay Ash herself in Dallas in the late 90's and she said it was the best time of her life. Just actually meeting the founder of the company that brought my mom happiness.
As time time wounded down and tears flew from her co-workers, she handed in her badge and walked out from her work for the last time. What have I learned about this? Be proud of your work. Just being yourself and do whatever you enjoy to do. My mom really loved her work and she was really dedicated to it. Even when it had it's negatives, she looked more at the positives from her work. As much I am sad that it is the last time that I will be at the site, it was something that I will remember for the rest of my life. I will always be a Mary Kay kid.
Friday, January 1, 2010
What if?
Well 2009 has come to a end. I feel relieved. We have been so much as a couple. After loosing half of my hours and 10% of my pay, my wife has been taking more calls at her work. She has very strange hours and sometimes I don't get to see her for the whole day. It is tough because I wanted to work more to relieve the stress that my wife goes though everyday at her work. We are able to work things out because we know this is a temporary situation. So I am looking forward to 2010. I will be going back to school to study IT. I am excited and movited to have a better kind of work that I enjoy doing. I feel 2010 will be a better year for us.
We didn't really do any kind of partying for New Years. We just took it easy. There was one movie that we saw. It was called "(500) Days Of Summer." There was a scene when Summer sees Tim at their favorite spot when they were dating. This was the end of the movie when Tim realized that she is married and how she met her future husband. It was done without any thought. They said hello and agreed to have a coffee together. If she didn't do that, she wouldn't find the love of her life. That scene put a spark in my head.
In December of 2006, I was on Friendster checking out to see if I had any messages for the day. I was tired of going into a online relationship again. I felt that I wasted a lot of times wanting it to happen. I checked to see who viewed my profile. One of the people viewed my profile was a person named Irma. She is from Chicago and I noticed that she is a friend of one of my acquaintances from bowling. So I thought to send her a message to her. Not only she replied but after a month of half of sending messages, we decided to meet and the rest is history. After dating for 2 years, I popped the question and she accepted. We got married on April 8, 2009. Looking back to it now and seeing that movie, I was thinking. What if didn't send her a message? What if she didn't viewed my profile? I could not be where I am and my life would be very different. I look back at that I and go "Wow. How did that happen?" That is something I really can't explain.
We didn't really do any kind of partying for New Years. We just took it easy. There was one movie that we saw. It was called "(500) Days Of Summer." There was a scene when Summer sees Tim at their favorite spot when they were dating. This was the end of the movie when Tim realized that she is married and how she met her future husband. It was done without any thought. They said hello and agreed to have a coffee together. If she didn't do that, she wouldn't find the love of her life. That scene put a spark in my head.
In December of 2006, I was on Friendster checking out to see if I had any messages for the day. I was tired of going into a online relationship again. I felt that I wasted a lot of times wanting it to happen. I checked to see who viewed my profile. One of the people viewed my profile was a person named Irma. She is from Chicago and I noticed that she is a friend of one of my acquaintances from bowling. So I thought to send her a message to her. Not only she replied but after a month of half of sending messages, we decided to meet and the rest is history. After dating for 2 years, I popped the question and she accepted. We got married on April 8, 2009. Looking back to it now and seeing that movie, I was thinking. What if didn't send her a message? What if she didn't viewed my profile? I could not be where I am and my life would be very different. I look back at that I and go "Wow. How did that happen?" That is something I really can't explain.
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