Thought on Marriage.

During the last couple of weeks, there have been events going on that I have been thinking or maybe second guessing about marriage. I am happy with my marriage and I was a nervous wreck but I decide it is the best thing in the world since I am happy with her. But as time goes on, some people that I met as married come up divorced in the end. That is one thing that really scared me when I was a kid. A divorce. My parents have been married for over 40 years and I still couldn't figure out why they have worked out well as they did. Now when I got married, I am facing with the same things that makes a marriage work. The question is: How does it work?

No one really knows.

I had a question from one of my friends asked me if marriage is good as it ever is, or does it make you feel complete. That could be a myth. At a time when at least 50% of all marriages ended in divorce, those ideas may not real from at a time when I was growing up. My uncle was married for 18 years before they ended up divorcing. Also part of my dad's family which I like, ended up divorcing. Why? No one knows. I am my own person. My wife is her own person too. At times, we have disagreements. Frustration mostly but when all those subsides, we still keep communicating. We are both different people at times but we share the same goal of what we want to do in our future. I never knew any of this before I got married. It is a big learning experience. I fell that communication and trust is the most important thing in a marriage. The ceremony can be the most surreal of anybody life and it could be the best time of your life, but when it is all over, bam! You have to live and deal with each other.

Has marriage changed me? Yes. It has changed me as a person. I still be my own person but now I have other commitments. I don't bowl at least 3 leagues a week anymore. Plus I am inspired to do new things and hobbies that I never worth pursuing. Sometimes a marriage can do that. I will still continue to work on it. It is a must. Sometimes a lot of people don't go with that route. Just giving it up or blame their spouse for the problems which I don't want to do. I never thought it will be a lot to think about but I am in it for the long run.